What has happened to us? What has happened to our children? What has happened to our imaginations?
What has happened that the highest level of success we can imagine is participating, finishing?
What ever happened to winning? To wanting to win? To believing that there is a unique way for each and every one of us to win? To the pursuit of excellence? To seeking our fullest potential? To striving, to reaching, to working consistently, diligently, honestly… to achieving?
Its even worse… many cannot even imagine finishing so in order to finish, they have to cheat. Review the prior post (click here) to read just how many adults are cheating their way to ‘win’ a participation award, to receive a finishers medal.
What has happened is that we have settled for the narrative that we cannot win, we aren’t winners, there is no unique way for each and every one of us to win.
Consequence #1: we have become thieves.
Thieves who are out to steal wins from those who earned them honestly, or if that is unavailable to diminish the efforts of those who have sacrificed, who have committed to endless hours of dedicated focus… stealing their moments of success because we no longer respect work or those who put in work.
Consequence #2: we have become parasites.
Parasites seeking to live ‘passively’ off those who do work, who have accumulated success as a result of many many years of diligent honest work.
Consequence #3: we have become scavengers.
Scavengers who rummage through the success of others to see if they can find some semblance of success for themselves out of the left over scraps.
The short cuts to success in the short term seem to pay off… being a thief, a parasite or a scavenger seems to offer the potential for small bits of success here and there without having to sacrifice anything. But those small bits of success never truly fulfill, never satisfy the way we want to feel, they never provide the contentment that is needed deep within each and every one of us. The compromise to settle for participating, for finishing, for a small shred of someone else’s success is not enough.
In each case, we corner ourselves into the belief that we are victims, and by being victims we can stake claim to someone else’s success.
The solution? In the short term, the short cut to the short cut is to steal more, leech more, scavenge more… hoping that more of the same will satisfy; but, that fails to reward us the way we need to feel rewarded.
In the long term, the short cuts yield mental and physical decay, eventually leading to emotional and spiritual emptiness… and since seeking short cuts becomes the guiding mindset for both our conscious and unconscious decisions, we hope that medical intervention will save us from our misery, our pain, our disease, our dysfunction. But we find that the best medical interventions in the world are still only short cuts – bandaids – for what truly ails us.
So you have the following decision to make, you can… continue to lead a life stealing, leeching, scavenging and hoping that technology and medicine will one day be able to ‘save’ you, or you can decide that you have spent enough time as a loser, enough time losing, and its your time to win.